So I’m sorry my posts have been so serious recently but it feels like EVERYONE is going through something right now, or has been this whole year in general honestly. Who’s ready for 2019? Lots of sadness in the air this fall. I’ll be sure to post something light and fluffy this week for some change of pace. But for now, here’s a dash of perspective.
The truth is, none of us are invincible, and none of us can predict the (exact) future. This provides an argument for many points on how to live your life, for example mitigating risk, living each moment, etc. However, I am going to focus on the “not leaving anything left unsaid” concept. One of, if not the main values of life is human connection and relationships. The harsh reality is that tomorrow is never promised to any of us. We never know if we are talking to our best friend, wife, mom, brother, etc. for the last time. I know that sounds morbid, but freak accidents happen, and you really are not exempt from them, no one is. I know this is cliche, but I make it a habit to not go to sleep angry/in an argument and to always say I love you to my friends when I hang up the phone or as I’m saying goodnight or goodbye. I’m sorry if it ever makes you feel uncomfortable but you deserve to know how much you mean to me, and I never want to live with the regret of not letting you know. I also think it’s important to be reminded of your value and worth because most of us know how easy it is to forget sometimes. I have amazing friends, like AMAZING, and I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. Deep connections bring so so much into our lives, let your best friend know how much they mean to you tonight, I promise it will make both them and you feel good. As for risk mitigation, of course, it’s smart to be safe, but don’t let it prohibit you from doing what fulfills you or makes you happy, you can only do so much and I personally take living an awesome yet risky-possibly-slightly-shorter life over living a boring yet cautious-possibly-slightly-longer life. I do not ever want to take a moment or a person for granted in my life. So with that in mind, there is one risk mitigator I enforce in my life, the risk of regret. One of my biggest fears is having something important left unsaid.
So here is why I say I love you to those I care about:
I say I love you because if one of us dies tomorrow, at least you will never question how I felt about you.
I say I love you because the national average of death by car accidents per day is 3,287.
I say I love you because approximately 44 million American adults have a mental health condition, and you just don’t know what could put someone over the edge, or take them off of it.
I say I love you because, for every one successful suicide, there are 25 attempts.
I say I love you because nation-wide an estimated 1,735,350 people will be diagnosed with cancer this 2018, and 609,640 will die from the disease.
I say I love you because, in the U.S., someone has a heart attack every 40 seconds. Each minute, more than one person in the United States dies from a heart disease-related event.
I say I love you because every year more than 795,000 people in the U.S. have a stroke.
I say I love you because sometimes you have more going on than you’d wish to tell me, and that’s ok.
I say I love you because you could be struggling with addiction and need a reminder of why to get better.
I say I love you to remind you how amazing of a person you are to have someone else care so deeply about you.
I say I love you because tragedy is all around us, reminding us what is important in our lives.
I say I love you because I truly do love you, and am so grateful that you are a part of my life.
Every one of those people is somebody’s loved one. So cherish the people close to you because tomorrow isn’t promised, and you only have one life. Don’t you want to make it count and leave everything on the table?